why didn't it work?

Part of my way with coping with this entire infertility process has been to spend ridiculous hours online looking for "answers" or at least helpful tips... so of course last night I got home around midnight and found myself up til after 2am googling embryo implantation. My doctor has all kinds of scientific info but I found this on one doctor's website:

The enigma of embryo implantation – why doesn’t every embryo become a baby?

While modern technology is very good at making embryos in the laboratory, we still cannot control the implantation process. We do not know which embryo will become a baby – and this can be very frustrating, for both patients and doctors! Many patients who do not get pregnant after an embryo transfer start believing that their bodies are defective, and that they have "rejected" the embryo. They feel that if they failed to become pregnant even after the doctor transferred 3-4 good quality embryos, that they are flawed. However, you need to remember that embryo implantation is a very complex process. How implantation is regulated and brought about remains an enigma, but we need to remember that the implantation process is surprisingly inefficient in humans – Nature is not always very competent! After IVF, it’s only about 10%, which means that only 10% of embryos implant successfully to become a baby. The responsibility for this low efficiency has to be shared between the embryo as well as a defective embryo-endometrium dialogue. We still cannot successfully predict which patient will get pregnant after embryo transfer. Basic research on implantation is of great interest today, because embryonic implantation is the major factor limiting in allowing pregnancy after IVF, but we still need to learn a lot about this "black hole" in our knowledge, before we can learn to control it!


I guess the bottom line is, when it doesn't work, there's usually not much to blame it on. I just have to believe that it still CAN work.


The only thing different I may try this next time is accupuncture, laughing more afterwards because this time I was more focused on relaxing rather than laughing, oh and I read that some tradtional chinese medicine practitioners encourage eating all warm foods after, nothing cold, and even drinking beverages without ice/more at room temperature. Another encouraged eating red meat. Who knows?