Thankful for a new day

I heard back from the doctor already... here is his response:

The problem is we never know how many of the embryos will survive thawing. We know that overall about 95% of embryos survive thawing in our hands but we have on occasion seen a group of embryos from a single source not survive. The good news is that although there are two patients ahead of you, one is already on medication and should be done in a few weeks. The second one looks like she may drop out. If that occurs (or if we don't hear back from her) then I will let you start on medication even if we have not completed the other transfer. This is so long as you understand that you could end up taking the medications but not end up having a transfer.
SART data cannot be used to compare fresh vs frozen. The data does not take into account several important factors 1) The stage of development of the embryos when frozen 2) The quality of the embryos 3) The number transferred - this is hinted at by the "avg number transferred" but most patients fail to see that for any age group, less embryos are transferred. This will sig effect pregnancy rates. In your case, the fact that you chose to transfer one embryo definitely lowered the chance for success.

I am still frustrated but certainly feel better. At this point, when I get my period I will call and hope this second possible person has disappeared and I can start the medications.... it sounds like if she is in then I would have to wait, but if it's only the one other then I can start. At least that is how I read this.

I had also questioned him about his success rate with frozen embryo transfers.... that is what the second half of his response is about. I had read a ton of articles, etc., that stated that single embryo transfers were only about 10% less successful then double, but with this doctor's statistics it seems I need that extra 10% chance. I have a girlfriend that transferred 3 the first attempt and had 1 healthy baby. As much as the idea of twins terrifies me, I feel like I have to increase my chances.

Bottom line, it's a new day... thanks for all your kindness.